Talking about the lost

There are no more difficult conversations than with people who have lost loved ones.  How to express sympathy without probing too far?  How to share our sense of bereavement without adding to an unbearable load?  How to tell when they just want to have a laugh? 

Read this moving and helpful article from the Daily Telegraph by Nigel Dudley, whose 22-year-old son Ed passed away without warning, without any obvious cause, a few years ago.  

As he says, ‘While everyone wants to help, no one knows what to do. ‘

Death is unspeakable.  But for those of us left behind, there is nothing worse than silence.

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One response to “Talking about the lost

  1. englishrain

    Catherine, what a simple and poignant way to phrase a sentiment I think we all share. Silence is the death of the memories, and that is intolerable.

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